Taking Charge
3/10/13
There comes a stage in life when one is expected to take charge of himself / herself. This is the first step after which taking charge of other things follow. What are the impediments to taking charge of oneself? Yes, one can see examples of selfless workers working for noble or despotic causes like a fanatic, but before this has to come the ability to constrain oneself. Some of the impediments could be – lack of confidence, overzealous expectation of appreciation, too many distractions posing as opportunities, or lack of the feeling of self worth. One or many of the above could lead to failure to take charge of oneself. The transition from youth to adult, minor to major, is indicated by the beginning to take charge of oneself. This is usually seen at the adolescent stage in many, but age is no criterion for this transition. Age generally accompanies the physiological transition from youth to adult, but psychological maturity does not always. What appears to me is that over the years the time of transition from youth to adulthood at the physiological level has come down. This may be a result of better and more availability of nutrition and more information about the world through development in communication and media. However, the age of psychological maturity has either not changed or been put off by a couple of years. This is my conjecture, but I am collecting data to test this idea, as of now.
Lack of confidence essentially comes with the lack of faith in one’s own abilities. This could be due to lack of encouragement or correction of efforts when attempts to accomplish certain outcomes are made. This could result from a combination of self inflicted loss of confidence and lack of psychological support system or exposure to some form of abuse.
Expectation of appreciation is universal, but in some individuals appreciation is the only inducer for better performance. Inability to derive pleasure from self assessment can be an important contributor to this. Having too many options is not necessarily advantageous for some individuals, which can lead to lack of effort in making oneself committed to a purpose and goal. If you are unable to pick what is good for you, then you really require someone to force things on you. Feeling lack of self worth is the most difficult disease to get cured off. This requires the good fortune to a good company of caring individuals around to constantly push you around.
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